21 Powerful Ways To Persuade People
To Do What You Want
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
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Table of Contents
How To Persuade Anyone By Asking for More 4
How to Use Persuasion to Sell
Anything 6
The Magic Button to Influence People and Yourself 8
How to Use Hot Trends
and Passions to Persuade People 11
Covert Persuasion Techniques Using the Law of Expectation 13
Persuasion
and Influence - The Remarkable Law of Expectation 15
Covert Persuasion Techniques - 5 Sales-Boosting Persuasion
Tips 17
Power Persuasion Technique - Using the Persuasion
Principle of Association 19
Persuasion and Influence - The Powerful Law of Association 21
Covert Persuasion Technique
- The Storytelling Persuasion Tactic 23
Effective Persuasion Techniques for Salespeople 25
Persuasion
Methods for Bigger Profits 27
Methods of Persuasion You Can Easily Apply 29
Elements
of Persuasion - Keys to Influential Success 31
Persuasion Techniques to Handle Difficult Customers 33
Persuasive Public Speaking - How to Persuade
Your Audience Through Public Speaking 35
How to Be a Persuasive Salesperson 37
Subliminal Persuasion Techniques 39
How
to Build Solid Relationships Using the Power of Words 41
How to Speak Fluent Body Language 43
How
to Deal with Annoying People 45
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How
To Persuade Anyone By Asking for More
By
Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Are
there any proven persuasion techniques to get someone to do what you want,
even if you have that feeling
that you're asking too much? Fortunately, there is.
It's called "asking for more." Ironic as
it may sound, this is one of the most potent
persuasion tactics you may use.
Here's
how it works. Let's say you want your friend to donate $10 to a charitable
cause you're involved with.
For him, $10 might already be a big amount. Instead
of asking for less, you asked him for $25 because you
imply that's what most
people are giving. If he doesn't want to give you the $25, tell him, "In that
case,
we'll just have to be contented with $10." He'll feel so relieved to save $15 and
will
gladly give the $10 to you.
You won't believe how often kids apply this technique. They simply want to
go to
a movie, but they ask their parents to take them to expensive vacation spots.
When
their parents say that such trips are too expensive, their children would ask,
"Could we just go to
a movie then?" The kids get what they want, while the
parents feel that the pressure has been taken
off them.
The power of this persuasion method comes from the feeling of obligation to
reciprocate
the concession you initially gave.
People will be more receptive to grant your true (and smaller) request
after they
declined the first (and bigger) one. They will feel embarrassed to turn down the
second
favor, especially if it's much easier to comply than the first request.
The second request gives them the
freedom of choice. It's like they're given an
escape route. They will feel like a special favor has been
given to them because
they're given room to negotiate and reject the first offer.
Using
this powerful persuasion technique, they will feel a sense of contentment
and at the same time, a sense
of responsibility to fulfill the secondary (and even
other future) requests.
Remember
that people feel a sense of guilt if they refuse your request. If your
second favor is something they can
afford to do, then they'll grab the opportunity
to make it up to you.
The great thing
about this is that they might even give you the larger request.
This is one of the most effective persuasion
techniques because you give them
the chance to negotiate, and at the same time you make them feel that
they got
the better end of the deal because you "gave in".
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How to Use Persuasion to Sell Anything
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
In this article, I'm going to reveal proven persuasion techniques that you can use
when
you feel that the other party might not agree or comply with your request.
One of the best uses of these
methods is in selling.
An essential advice in selling is to give people what they want or a solution to
their problem. How can you determine people's likes or problems? The answer:
Watch out for
words that reveal them, such as "want", "wish", "like", "need",
"help",
"hope", "hate", "dislike", "problem", confused", etc.
Examples:
"I need to manage my time better." (You could recommend a time management
book or
course on the internet and get commission as an affiliate.) "I want to
solve this problem with my
wife." (You could find a relationships coach and get a
percentage of the profits.)
Now
this isn't taking advantage of other people's problems. This is a win-win
situation because you get to
help them but at the same time make money.
If you still can't find out their problems, passions or wishes,
you may ask
questions such as:
"What do you want most out of life?"
"What types of situations do you treat as problems?"
"What do you wish to accomplish
in the next few months?"
"Is there anything I can do to help you get what you want?"
Make sure you're not offending anyone. Since you don't know if a certain subject
might offend
the other party, it helps to ask questions like "What do you think
about...?" or "What's
your opinion on...?"
Now once you know more about their desires or problems, you can use a
persuasion
technique named "consistency recall" to get them to accept your
suggestion.
People
want to be consistent with their statements. If they act in a way that is
incompatible with what they said,
they will feel uneasy and might even feel that
they're not worthy to be trusted. Use this powerful method
to your advantage.
You can say, "If I remember correctly, you shared with me and the group that you
want to resolve a serious problem with your wife. I know someone who can finally
solve your
problem. Would you like to give it a try?"
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It's tough to reject a proposal like this because non-acceptance would mean
being inconsistent
with their words.
Try to have other people listen along to your conversation with your "prospect."
The more people who hears what he says, the more he will strive to be
consistent with his
words.
If you can, ask your "prospect" to write down what he says. You can do this in a
"friendly" or "joking" manner; the result will remain the same.
By writing
down and/or being aware that other people have heard their
statements, they are more likely to yield to
your suggestions.
Use these powerful persuasion tactics and you'll soon realize that there are much
more opportunities to sell anything than you previously thought.
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The Magic Button to Influence People and
Yourself
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Want to know a powerful covert influence tool that allows you to get anything you
want
- through your own acts or by subconsciously commanding others to render
it to you?
It
does not take a magician or hypnotist to do it. Even an ordinary individual has
the capacity to achieve
this covert influence technique through constant practice.
Imagine the power if you could just do a simple
act and you'll instantly be able to
change your mood or energy level. Just imagine the power of having
others do
whatever you want them to do without them being consciously aware of it.
When
I mention the word oranges, your mind processes the image, your mouth
may begin to water, and you may even
remember the times when you and your
special someone were enjoying and eating the oranges together.
Here's another example of this covert influence application.
Have you watched a movie that
was so touching it made you cry? In one of the
movie's most moving scenes, there was sad background music.
Two months later, you're listening to the radio. You heard the same sad song
from that movie.
You suddenly remembered the scene, the actors, the emotions,
even the person seated next to you who was
also crying two months ago. You
felt the sensation all over again. You recollected the sentimental mood
because
of that same music. This covert influence tactic is known as anchoring.
What
is an anchor? An anchor is a compelling and influential connection of
something seen, heard, touched, smelled,
or tasted with a specific memory or
representation.
You associate something experienced
in the past with a state correlating to the
present.
How To
Use An Anchor
Reflect on a time when you had a totally exciting, fun, or happy
experience.
Engage yourself thoroughly on that wonderful feeling. See, hear, taste, smell,
and
feel everything around you.
Then create an anchor. Clench your fist in excitement, listen to a lively song,
squeeze your thumb and middle finger together, or just do anything you can think
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of, as long as it's something that creates intensity within you
when it brings you
back to that moment. After about 1 to 3 minutes, let go of the anchor while still
engrossed in that state. Wait for a few seconds, then break out of that state.
The more intense
and passionate the experience, the better anchor you will
create. If you're going to visualize and reminisce
the times you went hiking in the
mountains, enhance the sensations before assigning an anchor. Feel the
refreshing atmosphere, see the lush green flora, smell the fresh mountain air,
smell the barbecue,
play with the
fireflies.
It would be so much better if you were actually hiking in the
mountains. The
actual experience is much more conducive to creating an anchor. Let's say the
anchor
you've created is a large snapshot of your entire team, with the
invigorating view of the mountains as
the background.
Then next time you feel blue or stressed out, just look at that picture and you'll
feel calm and relaxed. It's as if you were brought back to the mountains. You'll
feel stimulated
and energized.
Covert Influence Application Of Anchors To People
Let's say whenever your friend pats you on the back, you whistle a happy tune.
You
did this every time. Next time when you want him to pat you on the back, all
you've got to do is whistle
that same happy tune. He won't even be aware that
you've programmed him to do it every time he hears that
tune.
This covert influence tactic takes a little more practice though; but once you've
accomplished
it, you're in big business. Be forewarned! Never intentionally apply
anchors to manipulate other people.
Create an anchor in low-risk situations. Put
anchors to good use.
A manager of a company
would always say in a loud enthusiastic voice
"Fantastic Job!" to anyone who has performed beyond
his expectations. Due to
his encouragement, that manager's department is the most satisfied and
motivated
in the whole company.
Every time they hear the manager say "Fantastic Job!" to anyone in the
office,
they would remember the happy and fulfilled feeling when they were the ones
being
congratulated. That would then motivate the staff to do their very best.
Using anchors can be an extremely
effective covert influence method. Use it
wisely.
If you
can easily and quickly persuade anyone to eagerly do anything
you want (without them knowing it), how will
you use your covert
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How to Use Hot Trends and
Passions to Persuade
People
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
It's easy to influence people if you know how to apply the psychology of
persuasion. In this
article, I'll show you some instant persuasion strategies to
persuade prospects to become buyers - utilizing
current trends and their
passions.
Ready to use the power and psychology of persuasion
to sell more products and
get what you want from others? Read on...
Instant
Persuasion Using Trends
If you can associate your product with the hottest trend,
then you're bound to
achieve great success.
When a well-known international Olympic
event takes place, you will notice
sponsors associating their product with the occasion. You'll see them
paying
handsomely to have the right to claim that their product is the "official shoes" or
"official drink" of that Olympic event.
This psychology of persuasion is effective
because of the law of association. You
associate your product with something that's currently hot or in-demand.
You don't have to pay an expensive price to associate yourself with the trends
though. You
can simply put information about the trend in your sales message
that associates it with the product. For
example, you can say something like: "If
Mr. ABC mentors you, you're on your way towards becoming
the Harry Potter of
life coaching."
Associate yourself, your company, your product
or service with the current
hottest trends. Some websites will notify you when new trends or stories emerge.
They include:
news.google.com
news.yahoo.com
msnbc.com
cnn.com
cnet.com
In order to save time, you may subscribe to their RSS
feeds so you may be
alerted automatically when buzz-worthy stories arrive.
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Instant Persuasion Using Passions
Your friend loves magic, and you're selling a course about how to earn money on
the internet.
You can incorporate the 2 themes together so your material can be
associated with their passion. You can
say something like "This Houdini internet
marketing course
allows you to magically
escape the rat race by teaching you step-by-step how to
earn big profits online at the shortest time."
Again, this persuasion technique associates your product with your prospect's
passion. It's
important to build rapport with him first, and of course, know his
values so you'll have a clue on what
his passions are.
To know his values, you can ask questions like:
"What's most
important to you about (attending this event, buying this course,
etc.)"
"What
do you value in a (business, car, etc.)?"
Now that you know how to apply the psychology of persuasion
using trends and
passions, how will you use this knowledge to succeed in your ventures? Here's a
tool you can use to predict the potential popularity and origin of a trend:
http://www.google.com/trends
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Covert Persuasion Techniques Using the
Law of
Expectation
By
Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
In
this eye-opening article, I'll reveal some astonishing persuasion techniques to
help you persuade and influence
people to do what you want.
Ever heard of the expression "You get what you expect?" It's a fact
supported by
a persuasion law known as expectation, and written below are 4 covert
persuasion
techniques utilizing this principle.
# 1 - Use Parkinson's Law
Want to know how to use expectation to persuade others to accomplish tasks 2
times,
3 times, or even many times faster? If the task requires 3 months to finish,
tell them it has to be done
within 3 weeks. The magic in this is that the work will
be completed in a span of time based on a person's
expectation of how much
time is required to do it. Parkinson's Law states "work expands so as to fill
the
time available for its completion."
If they cannot absolutely do it in that
span of time, use another subliminal
persuasion technique - the principle of comparison. Tell them that
if they can
produce excellent results, they will be given, let's say, a 2-week extension. They
will
compare the 2 time frames and may even thank you for giving them enough
time! You gave them the impression
that they are given a lot of time (because
you've added 2 weeks to the original 3-week deadline), even
when the task can
take up to 3 months to finish.
# 2 - Be
Specific.
Another great tip to maximize the power of expectation is to be as
specific as
possible. If you can say, "I know you're a fast writer who can turn out at least 7
quality articles within 5 hours" instead of "I know you to be a fast and efficient
writer,"
then the results will be better and more accurate.
# 3 - Find Similarities and
Point That Out.
To successfully influence people, find any point of similarity
between you and the
person you're persuading.
For example, both of you are members of
a reputable association. You can say
something like, "As a fellow member of 'Justice for All Inc.,'
I know you want
justice to be served at all times. I respect you and regard you as one of my
heroes.
I'm sure many people treat you the same. Just want to thank you in
advance for continuing the fight to
give justice to Mr. Jones."
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#
4 - Expect To Be Expected.
Keep in mind also that people base their expectations
on various aspects such
as your physical qualities, your surroundings, etc. Everyone will expect a neatly
dressed and well-groomed person to be wealthy and successful; that's why it
pays to look good
when you're
persuading others. If you wear dirty clothes and have unkempt hair, you'll be
treated
as someone who has bad manners, and they won't expect good outcome
from you. The same goes if you have
an orderly and tidy home. People will
expect you to be an organized person.
These 4
persuasion methods can be applied in almost any situation. Just
remember to communicate your expectation
well and you'll see great results.
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Persuasion
and Influence - The Remarkable Law
of Expectation
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
This article reveals a powerful law in the realm of persuasion and influence - the
law
of expectation.
When you expect someone to do what you want, and that person treats you with
respect
or admires/looks up to you, you have already increased your chances of
success higher. The magic word here
is "expect". You expect your child to get
high grades in school and he will get high grades.
You tell your son that he's a
bright student, you really expect that to happen, and your son will meet
or exceed
your expectations.
Why is this persuasion and influence principle so effective?
We aim to meet, if not exceed, others' expectations of us, especially if we stand
to gain
benefits like getting rewards, earning trust, or being regarded highly.
There have been cases where the
law of expectation has produced miraculous
results. Take the case of some cancer patients who were given
placebo pills.
These are just plain pills that have no healing capabilities. So how did they get
well?
They were told that these pills contain tremendous amounts of cancer-busting
ingredients
that can effectively heal their sickness quickly. They believed and
"expected" to be cured, and
so that's what happened. The power of the
subconscious mind is truly extraordinary. They say that people
act or behave
according to how you treat them. When we assign a person certain positive
qualities
or attributes, that person will allow us to believe that what we said is true.
So if you treat, let's say,
an average student as a genius, and tell him that his
performance exhibits that of a highly intellectual
person, he will allow us to
believe it and indeed become a very smart person. Try it; you'll be tremendously
surprised.
If you're a parent, assign positive qualities to your children, even if they don't
have those qualities yet. Tell them they're smart, and they will indeed become
smart. That's
the power of persuasion and influence.
We can use this to our advantage by adding certain words such as
"You probably
already know" or "You probably realize" in our statements. This is powerful
because you are assuming yet unconsciously suggesting at the same time.
Example:
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"You probably already know that
this is the best deal you can ever find."
Some people assume that they are being perceived in a particular
way, and they
will act according to their own perceptions.
An employee, who assumes
that his co-workers perceive him as incompetent,
will
probably be unable to fulfill
his job well. On the contrary, if that employee thinks
that others are praising him for his good work,
he will probably produce good
results with his job.
This persuasion and influence phenomenon
has a lot to do with their beliefs.
What you believe will happen, can actually manifest into reality.
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Covert
Persuasion Techniques - 5 Sales-Boosting
Persuasion Tips
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
It's not easy to sell. You can't survive by just being intelligent; you also have to be
armed with a pack-load of charm and wit. You also have an enormous edge if
you know and use
covert persuasion techniques.
If you wish to be a successful businessman or salesperson, you can learn
some
simple yet effective covert persuasion techniques to boost your sales by reading
this
article.
Technique #1: Know Your Product
It
is useless to be all ready and dressed up if you don't know anything about the
product that you are selling.
Although people are attracted to businessmen who
"look" like they know a lot about the product
that they are selling, the magic dies
out immediately once potential customers can detect that the businessman
is just
bluffing and does not actually know anything about the product that he is trying to
sell!
Study your product and gain as much information as you can about it so that
you will be able to persuade
potential customers more effectively.
Technique #2: Practice Your Sales Pitch
Do not confuse practicing your sales pitch with memorizing your sales pitch.
Practicing
and memorizing are two entirely different things. Practicing your sales
pitch is more effective since you
will be more fluent in talking to your customers
about the product that you are selling. It is not advisable
to memorize your sales
pitch because one mistake could lead to your downfall.
Technique #3: Be Smooth And Suave
You may be faced with very fussy
or annoying customers and you should be
ready for those kinds of situations. Learn to work well under pressure
because
your ability and skills as a businessman will truly be tested when you can
successfully
convince customers to buy your products even when you are
already under pressure.
Just
stay cool, calm and collected in answering or demonstrating to your potential
customers and sooner or later,
you will have them wrapped around your little
finger.
Technique
#4: Be Honest
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It is much
easier to convince a person about something that you know is true
rather than convince them about something
that is bogus. Do not oversell your
product because if your products fail or cannot live up to the promises
that you
gave your customers, it will just boomerang to you and you will end up having a
bad
reputation in the sales industry.
Technique #5: Maintain Eye Contact
Learn the art of looking into someone's eyes. Looking straight into the customer's
eyes
has a very powerful effect in their decision as to whether they would buy
your product or not. However,
you should keep the eye contact to a moderate
intensity or else you might be misinterpreted or you might
get in trouble for doing
so.
Don't underestimate the power of these covert persuasion
techniques. They may
be simple, yet they have been proven to work time and time again.
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Power Persuasion Technique - Using the
Persuasion Principle of Association
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
In this article, you will discover a remarkable way to persuade and influence
people.
I'll reveal a power persuasion technique to help you make more sales
and succeed in life, and that is by
using the principle of association.
You have probably heard of Ivan Pavlov's experiment where he rings
a bell every
time he feeds his dog. Now after some time, the dog would salivate every time it
hears
the bell ring, even if there was no food.
Salespeople also apply this power persuasion technique today.
They would often
treat potential clients out for a great lunch. Although these salespeople will shed
out a little money for the meal, it's nothing compared to the big profits they'll be
getting
once they get what they want from their prospects. They know that the
satisfying emotions accompanied with
eating the food will be associated with the
business discussion they are engaged in during the meal.
Even if the linking factor between two aspects were only remotely related, people
would go
all out to support or defend that which they are associated with (even in
the most minor ways). Are you
starting to realize the potential of this power
persuasion technique?
Why would a hometown
crowd cheer for their average basketball team who is
fighting against the country's favorite team? That's
because they are associated
with the team in terms of hometown. If the hometown team wins, they will also
share that feeling and may even say something like, "Our team won!" If their
team
loses, they would probably say something like, "They've lost the game."
They separate themselves
and avoid being associated with the losing team.
By being related (even in the most minor way) to the greatness
of an object or
event, the ego and reputation are built up.
It might not be too surprising
to know that the more insecure a person is, the
more he strives to be associated with external factors.
Those who know deep
inside that they have achieved great things and don't need to prove their worth
any further, are the ones who are not much concerned about associating with
outside forces
such as their school team who won the championship.
Other examples where this power persuasion technique
is used:
1. Some companies donate to charities in order to be associated with being
generous
and sincere; some companies sponsor special events such as athletic
contests to be associated with camaraderie,
teamwork and the winning attitude.
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2. There have been reports of weathermen being blamed, threatened, or even
hurt because people
associate them with the bad weather they've reported, even
if these poor weathermen have absolutely no
control of nature.
3. Cigarette commercials use young, energetic, and healthy-looking individuals
so viewers would associate the cigarettes with them, despite the dangerous
effects of cigarettes.
There's no doubt this power persuasion technique can help you succeed in your
relationships,
business or career. Now go out and use it ethically.
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Persuasion and Influence - The Powerful Law of
Association
By
Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Wonder
why many big companies choose famous TV stars to appear in their
commercials and not normal people? It's
because those stars are famous. They
represent wealth, reputation, skills, or popularity. When they endorse
a product,
you associate that star with the product. Hence, if you like the actor, you will get
to
like the product. And if you use the product, you tend to feel like the endorser
too. This is what we refer
to in the field of persuasion and influence as the law of
association.
Big companies
pay professional athletes large sums of money to wear certain
shoes or clothes, endorse their perfumes,
drive a specific car, or even eat certain
foods. You might be wondering why these athletes are even asked
to endorse
products that are not related to them or their craft. Persuasion and influence is at
work
here. As long as the association is positive, it is not necessary that the
correlation between the sports
star and the product be directly related.
Certain people choose their friends very carefully because the
behavior or
actions of the people they hang out with can very much reflect on them. If you
have
a friend who later became a criminal, you had better watch your back
because those who want to avenge may
pour their bitter revenge on you, no
matter how innocent you are! Be aware of this persuasion and influence
principle
before you associate to anyone or anything.
This is even more difficult if
you have family members or relatives who portray
negativities. Since we cannot choose them the same way
we can select our
friends, we are often strict in wanting our family members to conform to good
moral
values and ethics that reflect our own. Parents want their children to
observe proper conduct because other
people associate their children with their
father and mother.
When their kids win contests
or exhibit great talents, their parents are always
proud to associate with them and say, "That's my
son (or daughter)."
That's the power of association at work, and it's not limited to people. In fact,
you
can associate the quality of a person, place, thing, event or anything you can
think
of, with the subject of your persuasion and influence.
Just think about the clothes that people are wearing.
What would you think of a
person wearing a cross necklace? You would probably think he is religious. You
might associate someone in military attire as disciplined and brave, while
someone wearing
shades as cool.
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If you
want to make them feel something they've experienced in the past, you
may say something like, "Remember
the last time we went nature-tripping? It
was the most invigorating experience we've ever experienced,
isn't it? We're
going to experience it again in the trip we're going."
The purpose
is to alter the mindset and emotion of the person you're persuading
by using the right key of association.
You want them to associate you or your
product with positive
emotions, ideas or factors.
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isn't it?
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Covert Persuasion Technique - The Storytelling
Persuasion Tactic
By
Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
"Want
to hear a story?" Oftentimes when you hear this question, you suddenly
pay attention to the person
who is going to tell the story. Everybody loves stories!
For this reason, storytelling has become one of
the most powerful covert
persuasion techniques to influence people. Salespersons and marketers now use
storytelling because this covert persuasion technique helps them sell under the
prospects'
radar.
When you tell a story, you lower their resistance, make complicated things easier
to
understand, and perk up their emotions. You get them to escape temporarily
from the real world and enter
another dimension. When they're in storyland, their
minds are more open to accept concepts and ideas that
they have previously
denied.
Many websites employ stories instead of directly selling
their products or services.
You've probably seen their rags-to-riches to stories. They tell the readers
how
they started out broke, homeless and depressed. Then they did everything to
overcome
the odds and finally discovered a secret formula that has enabled
them to achieve all their dreams in life.
Now, they're ready to share the secrets
with you.
Isn't this covert persuasion technique
better than directly telling your prospects to
buy your products or services? Absolutely! Storytelling
can touch hearts, change
moods and alter emotions. The readers will feel as if they're involved in the
story,
and they would like to attain the same happy ending as that in the story.
To
maximize this amazing covert persuasion technique, engage as much of their
senses as possible. Let them
see, hear, smell, taste, and feel the various aspects
of your story.
Storytelling can
be applied to almost any situation, not just in selling. For
example, you have a partner who drinks alcohol
excessively. You can tell your
partner about someone you've just met who has an alcohol-addicted husband.
Tell a story of how that husband has ruined his family's relationships and
finances because
his bad habit has affected his way of thinking. Your partner
would associate that story to his own drinking
habit. Now wouldn't this a better
alternative than just telling your partner to "stop drinking because
it's bad"? You
bet!
Storytelling is one of the most effective covert persuasion
techniques if you know
how to apply it properly. To become a great storyteller, consistently read best24
selling novels and storybooks. Practice often
and you'll soon be covertly
persuading others to do what you want them to do.
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Effective
Persuasion Techniques for Salespeople
By
Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
How
many times have you wished for an ancient lamp containing a magical
genie to give you powerful persuasion
techniques to help you in the distinctive
and diverse methods of selling?
If you often
find yourself with cold, clammy hands and chattering teeth before
spewing your adequately prepared spiel,
then chances are, you won't get very far
with your prospective client. Why?
Because
if you yourself aren't projecting wholehearted conviction with the quality
of the product you are endorsing,
then why should others believe you? It may
seem like a no-brainer, but this is the main reason why many
salespeople
perform badly, to the detriment of their company's annual output.
So if
you want to be an exceptional person in the sales department with a big
paycheck and commissions to boot,
here are 3 tried and tested persuasion
techniques sure to launch you into stratospheric heights.
1. Be understanding. Yes, this is easier said than done but the whole point of
understanding
your customers would make life easier for both of you. How? It's
quite simple actually!
When
you immerse yourself in their world, you are given the rare opportunity to
look at any given situation
from their own point of view. Therefore, you should
formulate questions geared towards knowing their likes
and dislikes.
You should also try to figure out how they tick. Try putting yourself in their shoes
and imagine how they would feel if somebody comes up to them to present
Product X. What do
you think will their outlook be? Knowing the answers to these
million dollar questions will give you the
chance to respond with fitting actions
that would benefit their existence.
If you're
understanding, it would also be much easier to establish trust and
rapport with others. This is one of
the most basic persuasion techniques.
2. Be Mr./Ms. Congeniality. True, this is not a beauty pageant. Nevertheless,
an
open and friendly atmosphere between you and your client can possibly lead to
more
dynamic and fruitful deals in the latter part. A sincere smile can help uplift
their moods. A heartfelt
compliment can boost their spirits. Though these may be
considered little gestures, they count a lot.
Clients should be pampered and made to feel that a helping hand is just nearby.
Go the extra
mile by not only delivering according to their expectations, but by
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exceeding them. In fact, a caring environment will make them more amenable to
your
suggestions.
3. Show convincing evidence. It is not enough to be nice and friendly to clinch a
deal.
You also have to present how your idea or product is much better than the
others in the market. Present
compelling proof through the use of testimonials,
like before/after ads or one-on-one comparisons. However,
ensure that your
claims are all truthful and confirmable.
With these effective persuasion
techniques in mind, you are now ready to take on
what the world has to offer. Good luck!
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Persuasion Methods for Bigger Profits
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Every single day, we are bombarded with various methods of persuasion. Food,
beverage,
clothing, toiletries, movie and computer companies are just some of
the biggest spenders in the different
permutations of mass media. It is not a big
surprise then to see their well-oiled advertisements popping
every few minutes or
so in the television, the radio and the internet. Most magazine layouts are also
dotted with their striking labels, influencing the consumers to grab their newest or
recently
improved products.
Since most consumers are blinded by instant gratification, they spend their
money
unnecessarily leading to revenues ranging from a few hundred thousands
to millions of dollars for the companies.
Amazing, right?
If you want to know how multinational firms do it, worry not because here are
some
surefire methods of persuasion that are sure to help you. Whether you are
a struggling beginner or a savvy
reinvention publicist, you are sure to benefit
from these persuasion methods.
1. Generate
a need. This is the cardinal method of persuasion. According to
experts, if your great idea entails satisfying
a previously unnoticed need, then
you have a winner. Take the case of Bill Gates. Nobody before him had
the
brilliant idea of creating a usable computer operating system like the Microsoft.
So,
when he launched it, many people were in awe of the advantages. The result?
Massive use worldwide and a
tidy profit for the college dropout.
You don't have to look far for inspiration. A thorough evaluation
of Maslow's
Hierarchy of Needs will point you in the right direction. Be it physiological, safety
and security, love and belongingness, self-esteem or self-actualization needs,
you will surely
strike something worthy.
2. Attend to the social needs. Let's admit it. Every person wants to be liked,
acknowledged and respected. Man also has this inherent "herd mentality" which
dictates
him to look and act like everyone else.
This is reflected deeply during the school age years where peer
pressure dictates
everything and continues on well into adulthood. Bear in mind that trends are
always
good sources of income. Just make sure you're always updated by tuning
in to reliable sources.
3.
Play with words and images. Usually, a combination of words and images will
entice customers towards your
product. This is the reason behind claims such as
new and improved, faster results, more efficient than
the leading brand and so on.
Get creative and spin your own catchy taglines.
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With these effective methods of persuasion, you are on your way
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Methods of Persuasion You Can Easily Apply
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Social psychologists have known long ago how powerful the methods of
persuasion
are. It is not only seen in different commercial advertisements, but it
is also felt in the activities
of daily life, albeit in a subtler manner. It doesn't come
as a surprise that the most successful people
know how to masterfully harness
their persuasion skills. In this fast-paced environment where every survival
instinct is polished, the methods of persuasion are the keys in thriving and
zooming to the
top.
Here are the tools of the trade that you can use to your full advantage.
1. Solutions.
In whatever problem or need, there is always a solution. More often
than not, persuasion skills are just
finding the right match between the two.
If your potential client indicates that the service or product
you are pitching is an
effective answer to their woes, this is where you go for the jugular. Your idea
should be presented in such a way that they will gain substantial benefits. It could
be in
the form of warranties, insurance, free online customer care, rebates,
reimbursements or discounts.
After all, it is only understandable that they are very much concerned with their
well being,
especially if the proprietors started their company from scratch.
2. Be the expert. This seemingly plain
method of persuasion has closed many
deals. Patrons want to know what your product is about and how it
can improve
their quality of lives.
Consequently, it should be included in your obligations
to study and research
your products meticulously. This is the only way to honestly and effortlessly
answer the questions that may arise in the course of the discussion with the
client.
Be confident but refrain from being arrogant. There is only a thin line between the
two so
be conscious of how your client responds through his verbal and nonverbal
feedbacks.
If
he has an open posture, you may be making headway. However, if he crosses
his arms in front of his chest,
has clenched fists and a poker face, he may be
telling you to back off.
3. Compromise.
Hard as it is to believe, compromising is still a great method of
persuasion. Sometimes, we need to meet
the client halfway in order to show him
to what extent we can be of help to him. This is especially true
in clients who
have been let down by other idea or service providers before.
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If you are in the computer industry selling genuine spare parts
and you encounter
an ostensibly difficult client, come up with "test drives" promo or other noteworthy
gimmicks to prove your worth. Through this, the client will know you are a
legitimate business
worth venturing into.
Take advantage of these methods of persuasion and you'll stay ahead in life.
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Elements of Persuasion - Keys to Influential
Success
By Michael
Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
The
elements of persuasion are important to effectively deliver your point and
allow others to accept it. There
are a few guidelines to follow if you want to keep
communication as smooth and influential as possible.
You will find that some people are harder to convince compared to others and a
number require
a hint or more of expertise from you. Using the elements of
persuasion the right way can significantly
help you in dealing with all types of
people.
Body Language
Body language is one of the vital elements of persuasion. Using the right
gestures
is indispensable if you want to create a strong impression. Some people
relate positively to actions, and
your body language should specifically coincide
with the words coming out of your mouth.
Show
confidence by the way you stand. Make hand movements or gestures as
necessary, but avoid overdoing it.
Your facial expression is very important, as
well, so people will know the exact feeling you're trying
to convey. Your body
should be persuasive through strong and bold motions. You may have to practice
in front of a mirror to improve your form.
Communication Skills
One of the best elements of persuasion you can have as an individual is having
good
communication skills. Consider the fact that a lot of people, if not the
majority, will also try to refute
your statements. There will definitely be individuals
who initially cannot accept or understand your view,
which explains why you
need to learn how to respond appropriately.
Listen to what they
need and want, and then respond. You also have to find the
right words and arrange them properly to best
suit the situation. There are
communication strategies you can use, like rephrasing, asking questions,
focusing, and many more. These will greatly improve the message channel so
that ideas and
views remain constructive and positive.
Adjusting for Others
If you want to persuade others, you need to speak their language and adapt to a
situation
that they are most comfortable with. Let others feel that they are in
control of themselves, their thoughts,
and actions. You need to interact according
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to how they like it. Flexibility and open-mindedness are important, but be sure to
stick to
your main goal of influence. The two other elements of persuasion
mentioned above can effectively follow
once you've set the right mood and
environment.
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Persuasion Techniques to Handle Difficult
Customers
By
Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Persuasion
techniques are essential to apply in the field of sales and marketing,
as dealing with an irrational customer
is one of the toughest situations you can
tackle. How do you exactly alleviate the fury of a buyer who
is livid because of
something you, the service or product, or your company failed to perform? This is
where influence and persuasion techniques may come in handy.
Because the field of sales is
not a walk in the park, there will be times when you
will be shouted at, and even hurled harsh words by
clients who are not satisfied.
Don't be alarmed. This is a normal situation. And being so, there are ways
to rise
above them so that you don't break down, too.
First, find out what the client
is angry about. Is he complaining about your service?
Is he unclear about certain points in the agreement
or the product? Did the
problem come from you or did it spring out of his frustration over something he
misunderstood? What are his sentiments exactly?
You can find this out by being calm with the
client, no matter how irritable he is.
Ask politely what the problem is and request that he explain it
to you. Don't
interrupt and try to defend yourself or correct him while he explains. Wait for him
to finish and then enumerate all your responses to his problems.
Often, the customer does
not really want to know exactly what you are doing to
rectify the situation, only that you tell him that
steps are being undertaken to
correct it, and when precisely this is expected to be solved. One thing clients
hate most is continuously waiting for solutions that are not certain to happen.
When you have
figured out what he needs, level with him. Building rapport with
your client is one of the best ways to
get into a straight conversation with him
without the flare-ups. This means adopting his current mood.
If he is angry, let
him know that you understand his feelings. If he is frustrated, empathize. Clients
appreciate people who they know feel their pain. When you have succeeded in
this, you can
expect to have a much calmer discussion right after.
Don't say something like "I'm sorry for that.
I'm already on it." Instead, say
something like "I understand that you are angry now. I will
feel the same if I were
you. Rest assured that I will do everything in my power to correct this matter
as
soon as possible. I will constantly update you of the developments as I progress."
Handling
an irate customer is not so difficult if you know how to level with people.
Think of it this way. If you
were in his shoes, you would be feeling the same way,
right? How would you want the other person to face
you then? That should
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always
be your guiding strategy. Build rapport with the use of proper persuasion
techniques and, together, seek
solutions. No issue has ever been solved by an
argument.
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Persuasive
Public Speaking - How to Persuade
Your Audience Through Public Speaking
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Want to enhance your persuasive public speaking skills? Perhaps you have
already
spoken before an audience, have given a great speech, have influenced
them considerably to your point and
have received a standing ovation a few
times. Now you wish to improve that foundation you have in persuasive
public
speaking.
Here are three ways that can help you to become a more influential
speaker.
One, body language. Majority of human communication is done nonverbally, and
people
commonly respond and understand it very well, having said that we
primarily did not have formal education
on nonverbal language. In order to
effectively connect with your audience, mean what you're saying through
nonverbal cues.
These include eye contact, hand gestures, pacing and the like to stress your
words and statements. For instance, if you're trying to imply a very important
point, you
may point a finger up. If you're telling a story, pace a short distance
citing you're bringing them to
a certain point. You would be surprised what
difference as an audience it would make if the speaker simply
went through his
speech purely verbal.
Two, study. Influence is your main concern when
speaking before an audience
so you have to know what you're talking about. You have to persuade them into
considering the point that you're trying to make by citing facts, accepted truths
and sources
to show that your speech is actually based on something relevant.
Realize that there is no debate or an
exchange between you and them so you
have to be very mindful of every single aspect of your speech or they
may find
you stereotypical; or worse, they may see you contradicting your own statements.
Do
some research and be open about new ideas and opinions before speaking;
this will further guide you how
to be a more persuasive speaker.
Three, connection. Treat your audience, no matter how great or small in
number,
as your utmost concern. They are the reason you are speaking, so feel for them
as
if your message and efforts will be in vain if you cannot convince them to your
point of view.
You
have to create a link between you and your audience to successfully deliver
your speech. This connection
can be made through personal anecdotes, humor
or even asking an audience to speak a little.
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The goal is to be able to create feelings
between you and your audience where
they will know that it matters to you that they listen. This will be
the basis for a
smooth flow for the duration of the speech and probably the key to persuasion.
In
a persuasive speech, you as the public speaker should know how to persuade
and convince. The audience should
be driven to a point of influence that your
message will successfully be delivered and received. Repetition
of ideas, facts
and opinions will bring them to your point and positively boost your persuasive
public
speaking skills.
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How
to Be a Persuasive Salesperson
By
Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
If
you're in the business world, perhaps the most challenging part of the entire
experience is selling. Indeed,
nothing is more nail-biting than waiting for the other
party to decide whether he or she agrees with you
on the merits of a certain
product or not.
You will likely go through countless books
and spend long hours of research on
topics like negotiation
training, business plans and strategies, resource management
and obviously, selling. But one of the most important tools a
salesperson should possess, in order to be
successful in selling, is persuasion.
First, the attitude of persuasion comes from within. You have to
believe and
convince yourself that you can sell, and sell a lot!
You have to orient
and tell yourself that you have the capacity to offer a product
or service to someone else; have him need
what you're offering.
If you cannot develop that sense of persuasion in yourself, then it would be very
difficult to become a persuasive salesperson. Develop the attitude and belief of
being a persuasive
salesperson even to the least of things. How? Persuade
yourself first.
Two, you cannot
sell something you do not know anything about. You can have a
hundred stocks of the best and latest necessity
known to man; but without
knowing a thing about it, you would not be able to sell a single item. So to
be a
persuasive salesperson, you have to know the details. Research and study. You
have
to know the most intricate details of what you're selling because people are
going to be asking a lot questions
about it.
Even if you're simply trying to be a persuasive food salesperson, you have to
know
what you're offering. Vegans, vegetarians, ornish, and pritikin consumers
are going to be asking; and you
are the only one who can respond. You wouldn't
want to buy from someone who himself is doubtful over what
he's selling. If you
can't respond, then you can't sell. You can't sell what you know nothing about.
Finally, there's confidence. Now that you're equipped with the attitude and
knowledge on how
to be a persuasive salesperson, you can try overcoming that
fear inside you to come up to that person and
persuade him that he needs what
you have. It's that same fear that separates the common salesperson from
the
successful ones.
This is the time you should begin asking yourself the "What-Ifs".
"What if he
ignores me?" "What if he's in a hurry?" "What if he doesn't need it?"
These are
the questions frequently asked by those who don't have the other two qualities on
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how to be a persuasive salesperson. If
you know you can sell and you know what
you're selling, confidence will materialize independently. Then
you can casually
come up to anyone qualified and sell successfully.
The power of persuasion
is an indispensable tool and you should hone your skills
within these three principles. Keep them to heart
and before you know it, you'll be
earning more figures than you can ever expect.
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Subliminal Persuasion Techniques
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
Subliminal persuasion is the way of getting another party to agree with you
without outwardly
doing so and without the other person noticing that you were
trying to persuade him or her. A lot of people
do not even notice that they have
been won over by a simple smile - thus, making even that a tool for subliminal
persuasion.
It is essential in becoming an influential leader. You can subliminally persuade another person through two techniques:
via his or
her own words, and via inflection, or the particular words we give emphasis to in
a
given statement. A simple sentence like "I can't assure you that" can have a lot
of meanings,
depending on which word you have inflected. See the examples
below.
I can't assure you that. (But somebody else probably can) I can't
assure you that. (No way that will happen!)I can't
assure you that. (But, if you're lucky, you might get it.) I can't assure you
that. (But I can if it's somebody else.) I can't assure
you that. (Maybe I can assure you something else.)
Giving off what we mean via inflection is subtle. It will also help spare you from
being
overtly direct, especially if you're the type who hates the thought of turning
someone down. Understanding
which words to emphasize will save you from this
awkward moment (yet you still get to have things go your
way).
Another way to subliminally persuade other people is to have them eventually
agree
with you without them noticing it (because they thought it was their idea).
This is a rather tricky method
of persuasion and not many people might agree
with it. But, hey, it works!
When negotiating,
repeat what the other person said and then show how you will
be able to achieve what they want for them.
Be consistent so you don't run the
risk of contradicting yourself. As long as you have what the other party
needs,
you hold an advantage.
Here's an example. Let's say you're trying to sell used
cars to a friend. After
listening to the other person tell you what he or she is looking for in a used
car,
emphasize the items being sought in the vehicles you have in your roster. It will
be
difficult for the other party to say 'no' since you already have what he or she
said he or she needed.
This is what subliminal persuasion is; and when
employed the right way, it works like a charm every time.
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There's nothing bad about using such
clever persuasion techniques to get what
you want. That's the way life is played. This is how the rest
of the world operates.
The important thing is always go for the win-win resolution. If your persuasion
skills are powerful enough (and even cunning enough), you'll have no trouble
winning people
over.
Some like to call this influence; some argue this is foolery. However you might
choose
to view it, it is effective. And it won't be a surprise if you attempt to
employ these effective strategies
in the future; that is, if you haven't already
applied them in the past.
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How to Build Solid Relationships Using the Power
of Words
By Michael
Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
We
may not be aware of it; but the words we utter daily may have different
interpretations, even if you think
that they mean the same thing.
Here's an example.
Would you rather have someone tell
you that you are "slim," or would you like to
hear that you are "thin?" Being slim
has a slightly positive effect because it is
attributed to health and fitness.
Rather
than saying you have failed, just mention that you have not yet achieved
success. Get the picture? Always
try to speak words in the most positive manner
you can think of.
Here's another important
advice.
Never compare the negative qualities of one person with another.
A former boss
of mine has this to say to me when I made an error in my previous
day job, "James (not real name)
is doing a much better job than you are. He's not
committing any mistake like you do."
That
crushed my heart. My boss thought this would motivate me to do better.
Nope, it just hurt my feelings and
lowered my self-esteem. Of course, I would
never make the same mistake again after her harsh scolding.
I've learned my
lesson well. But she could have said it nicely.
Experiences arising
from discouragement and condemnation will have a negative
effect on the recipient.
Some
parents might believe that instilling fear on their children would improve
their performance. They would
say, "You're always failing. Why can't you be like
your brother? You're such a disgrace to this family."
Now that's not the proper way to do it. They should inspire, encourage, and
motivate their
children; not belittle them even further.
They should tell their children that they have the capacity to
achieve great things,
if they would only put a little more effort. Teach them values that would make
them feel important and loved.
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You may even go as far as giving them qualities that they do not yet possess. By
giving them
confidence and by making them believe that they have such
characteristics, they will eventually acquire
such traits. Tell them how bright you
think they are, and you will soon be surprised at the results. They
will significantly
improve if you firmly made them believe that they have the capacity to do so.
So if you ever wanted to persuade or encourage someone to do better, make
sure that he or
she is motivated out of inspiration, and not out of fear. Give
advice that cares, and not offensive words
borne out of hatred or anger.
Think first before you speak. Many relationships have been ruined by the
wrong
choice of words. Some people voice out anything that comes to their mind,
without
first filtering the good words from the bad ones. This might result in
misunderstandings and arguments,
which could have easily been prevented if we
speak out in a way that is neutral and non-offensive.
Words are very powerful indeed. Use them responsibly for the benefit of all.
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How to Speak Fluent Body Language
By Michael Lee, Author of How To Be An Expert Persuader
You've probably heard the expressions before.. "Chin up, shoulders back," "Keep
your distance," "Feet on the ground," "Pain in the neck." But have you ever
wondered
how they came about? It all has to do with Body Language.
Simply put, body language is the unspoken communication
we all use in every
face-to-face encounter with other human beings. You could say it's more
powerful
than anything said aloud. Ninety-three per cent of our everyday
communications is non-verbal. Only 7% has
to do with words at all. You could be
telling that other person much more with your body language than
you would
ever say in words.
Determining and regulating your own body language could
well mean the
difference when it comes to job interviews, networking meetings, banquets and
business
dinners, or even a social occasion, such as a date. Even trickier is
learning to read and understand the
other person's body language.
So, you're probably asking yourself, "How do I regulate my body language
to give
a true representation of how I feel when I interact with others?"
Start
with the distance between you and the person with whom you're speaking.
If you get too close, people feel
you're in their face, or too pushy. Too far away,
and you could be seen as standoffish.
The
angle of your body is a dead giveaway to others. We tend to angle our body
towards those people we find
friendly or interesting, and angle away from those
we feel are cold or unfriendly. Crossing your arms over
your chest shows
defensiveness. This posture says, "I'm closed off and keeping you out."
Eye Contact is one of the most important ways to communicate with others.
Looking them in
the eye shows respect and interest. We've all experienced the
person who looks constantly at their watch,
or seems to be far away and not
listening to us. Their body language says, "I have other places to
be and other
more interesting people to talk to than you." Or the person that you know is not
listening to what you're saying, but instead is busy deciding what he/she will say
next. Someone
whose eyes are downcast, not looking you in the eye could be
exhibiting signs of shyness, or it could be
deceit. Someone who is lying to you
will not look you in the eye.
The head position
also says a lot. To show confidence or authority, simply keep
your head level. This says, "Take me
seriously, my words are important." To
show friendliness and interest in what the other person is
saying, tilt your head
slightly to one side or the other.
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Mouth movements are easy clues to what the other person may be feeling. If
they
purse their lips or twist them, they could be thinking carefully about what you
just said, or disagreeing
with you, but holding back comment. You can certainly
tell when someone is not pleased.
The
handshake is extremely important in the communication with others. No one
wants to shake a hand like a
wet noodle; at the same time, a handshake needn't
be a contest of strength. It's a handshake, not arm wrestling.
Many people also
don't quite know what to do with their hands after the handshake, especially
when
meeting someone new. They tend to clasp their hands together, nervously,
or fiddle with their jewelry.
Since we're constantly sending out these powerful messages, it's clear we should
make an effort
to learn more about what our bodies say to others. And learning
what others are really saying to us is
of paramount importance in our day-to-day
communications.
So, chin up, shoulders back,
keep your distance, head up, eyes sharp, don't be
pushy or standoffish, smile and shake that hand. You
too can learn to speak
fluent body language.
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